Motivation and Procrastination

After all the rain and thunderstorms we’ve been having recently it’s a beautiful sunny day in Hong Kong. It’s hot, hot, hot! 33 degrees C (or mid 90’s F for my North American friends). Let’s hope it stays fine for tomorrow’s Dragon Boat Day or Tuen Ng Festival.

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I haven’t posted for over a week. I’ve been quite a bit down to be honest. Last Friday was my son’s birthday – he would have been 45. If you’ve read my ‘Meet Alayna’you will know that my son suddenly left this world 15 months ago, on the final journey we will all take one day.

‘Anniversaries’ are hard and I had a couple of days this last week when I didn’t even get out of bed. Last night was crux of the situation; I gave myself a strict talking to, reminded myself of my ‘why’ and decided I cannot wallow in depression and self-pity, that is unhelpful, totally unproductive, and it not going to change my situation one iota.

Therefore I decided this post needs to be about analyzing the current situation, motivation and picking yourself up after setbacks. It is therapy for me as I work through my own feelings and I hope it will help you if you’re also going through any low times, or at the very least I hope it will amuse you.

frustration1Frustrations and Indecisions

In a recent post I wrote the analogy that I was a tortoise rather than a hare. I’m a plodder who takes time to sort things through, but overall I see myself as persistent in pursuing my goals. However ……….

  • Sometimes I get frustrated and feel that I’m a tortoise with a snail friend for a business.
  • Sometimes life just gets in the way with what I want to achieve online and the content of my blog posts.
  • Sometimes I can’t decide if I should be watching more training videos, or blog hopping
  • Sometimes I get distracted and spend far too much time of Facebook reading about the interesting things others are doing.
  • Sometimes I feel like I’m taking one step forwards and two back
  • Sometimes I’m afraid to even check my bank balance
  • Sometimes I feel my list isn’t growing fast enough
  • Sometimes I need to go out and do a job I don’t really want to do because I need the rent money
  • Sometimes I get ‘stuck’ and overwhelmed
  • Sometimes I compare myself to others and feel depressed that I’m not doing so well

I may have done the QSC Turbo 2 but my business is definitely not turbo charged at present – it’s creeping along at a snail’s pace. I suffer from ‘there-is-so-much-I-need-to-learn-and-so much-I-need-to-do-and-the-days-aren’t-endless-and-neither-is-my-bank-balance’ syndrome.

In fact, on the bright side it is creeping forwards and that is a positive situation. Even if it feels like it plateaus at times.

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Plateaus & Procrastination

Sometimes I get stuck and have a brain freeze. I don’t know what I’m going to write a post about, because I’m just learning and I don’t know if what I have to say is valuable to others.

Sometimes I am afraid and can’t go forward, but I’m far more afraid of going back.

Sometimes I completely blob out. I have been known to resort to watching movie after movie and eating chocolate or ice-cream as a form of avoidance.

Solutions For You & Me

Review your progress –

Write down or celebrate even the tiny steps you’ve accomplished towards creating your online business and making it a reality.

Feeling overwhelmed?

Have a brain dump and write down EVERYTHING in your head- it doesn’t need to be organised just write it down. Spend about an hour on this. Get it all out there and clear space in your head. You don’t have to do anything with it – unless you choose to do so. You are just creating a fresh clear headspace from inner turmoil and chaos.

Getting negative feedback?

While I’m on about clearing space in your head – are you getting negative reactions from others about wasting your time or money on trying to make money online? Firstly, if the person is not your partner (which is an entirely different matter that I won’t go into) – why does it bother them what you do with your time or money? Don’t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head – raise the rent and kick them out!

Feeling stuck on something?

Reach out to your online Facebook group or Forum and ask others for advice

Take a break
  • Get off the computer and go play outside!
  • Go for a walk, run or go to the gym
  • Phone a friend or meet up for coffee or a drink
  • Spend time on an activity of hobby unrelated to the internet
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Accountability

Get yourself an ‘accountability’ partner. This can be anyone. They don’t have to have an internet business and they don’t even have to be in the same country. It’s just someone that you check in with regularly by phone, Skype or email,  to talk about what you’ve achieved and what your next step is. And LIMIT the time for this, people are busy, just make it say 10 minutes once a week.

Alternatively there’s also’public accountability’ where you announce to the world on Facebook or Twitter what you’re going to achieve this week or this month. It’s harder to  back down and not make an effort if you’ve put yourself out there. It doesn’t matter if you don’t fully manage everything – as long as you are TAKING ACTION and making progress.

Now having said all that I have to take heed of my own advice and go and Skype my accountability partner. :-) 

Steps forward

  • I’ve worked on my website/blog/online business (nearly) every day
  • I’ve thought about my website every day
  • I’ve made a LARGE chart of ‘Why Do I Want An Internet Business?’ set goals with time frames and listed how this will be achieved. I’ve put it on my wall where I see it last thing before sleeping and first thing when I wake up
  • I’ve watched tutorials and made notes
  • I’ve attended a number of training webinars on different aspects of an internet business
  • I’ve learned some new internet language
  • I’ve blog hopped and put comments on forums
  • I’ve bought my first solo ad

And the biggy………I’VE MADE MY FIRST MONEY ONLINE

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Personal Analytics

  • Own list of subscribers – 12 and 2 pending
  • Opt-ins  (iPro ) – 47
  • Conversions- 1
  • Useful stuff bought – Optilinks, VideoFX
  • Money saved (from not buying and Shiny objects)  – probably $500
  • Money saved from unsubscribing – $136/month
  • Money made – $17.95
  • Mild Frustrations and Panic Attacks – at least one daily and on bad hair days about 10

Have a good week and remember-

PERSISTENT AND CONSISTENT ACTION WINS THE DAY

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20 thoughts on “Motivation and Procrastination

  1. Firstly, I am so sorry that it has been a bad week for you. You are quite entitled to have a few days feeling ‘not quite up to it’.

    Secondly, the rest of your post DID make me smile. I know exactly how you feel. I have a million things running around my head, but then I get distracted because I have no idea how to process them, so they never get to see the light of day.

    My partner is now questioning why I am spending all of my time online. I understand and share his frustration, so I am now applying again for jobs. The most recent one – today – required that I take a 30 minute algebra test. As the last time I even gave algebra a thought was sometime in 1973, I doubt I will be called for an interview. :)

    Here’s my list of Personal Analytics
    Own list of subscribers – 0 and 0 pending
    Opt-ins (iPro ) – 0 I didn’t sign up for ipro
    Conversions- 0
    Useful stuff bought – 0
    Money saved (from not buying and Shiny objects) – $0
    Money saved from unsubscribing – $136/month
    Money made – $1.50
    Mild Frustrations and Panic Attacks – all day, every day, including bad hair days.

    So, you are doing much better than I am. Keep going, you WILL get there!
    Catherine recently posted…Being CreativeMy Profile

    1. Hi Catherine
      I enjoyed your personal analytics :-) I can’t imagine what job you would need algebra for these days. The exception being as a teacher there is one formula attributed to Einstein which I rather enjoyed: “If A equals success, then the formula is A equals X plus Y and Z, with X being work, Y play, and Z keeping your mouth shut.”
      Alayna

  2. Hi Alayna,

    I am sorry for your lost. But I think you are doing great putting the past behind and moving on. Great to hear that you have made your first sale online and hope to hear more about the progress soon.

    Take care.
    Joe.
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    1. Hello Joe
      Thank you for your comment. I’m ready to get back into it now after a weeks or so of other things that needed to be attended to.
      All the best
      Alayna

  3. What a wonderful post! You so aptly put into writing what so many of us go through and move forward to let us know we can overcome.

    We are usually our own worst critic. And that is something we work hard to overcome.

  4. Oh Alayna…

    You have my deepest condolensces for what you’re going through. I really can sympathize and empathize because I too lost a son. Since he passed on his birthday each year I’m reminded. When that time comes I give myself permission to feel however I feel without expectations.

    This is a post I will remember. It is therapeutic once the time has passed to get back to work and let me say, “Well done!”

    I think we all experience many of those same feelings in out IM business. Like you I have an accountability partner that helps me stay on track. If there’s anything I can do to help reach out and give me a holler…

    Keep on…
    Reg E. recently posted…What’s Up For June? A New ChallengeMy Profile

    1. Hello Reg,
      Thank you for your kind words and you too have my condolences. It’s hard to lose any family member but I think especially so when it’s your child. I feel humbled that others beside yourself have trusted me enough to share that they too have lost a child. Together we are stronger… and thanks I will holler :-)
      Alayna
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    1. Hi Scott
      Thanks for your kind words.I got round to doing the ‘whitelist’ you suggested. Thanks for that. I hope it’s working.I’m ready for a full weeks work on my business now and looking forward to it.
      Alayna

  5. Frankly speaking Alayna, this has happened to most internet marketers who started from scratch. I have also go through even today because it is a never ending process. Possibly in the future, we could get others to work for us of those things that we have no idea of how to do.

    I was making a squeeze page and it really took me 2 days to complete and those 2 days went in frustrations but then put my motivation to work for me, I was dreaming of the results and ultimately made it to work.
    Keyur Amin recently posted…24 Ways You Can Make Money Using Your WebsiteMy Profile

    1. Hi Keyur
      I’m glad you succeeded with your squeeze page. I keep telling myself that everything is figure-outable and I think I’m reasonably intelligent :-) so I should be able to figure it out – or ask someone if I get stuck.
      The future of paying someone to handle minor techy stuff is a way off yet – and by that time I’ll have probably figured out how to do it myself through sheer necessity :-)
      Alayna

    1. Hey there Josh
      I’ll come over and check out your tips. My main issues are usually the techy type – I say up all the tips from people in a ‘how to’ file.
      Alayna

    1. Hi Sandy,
      I talked to my accountability partner this morning so I should get back on track now :-) There’s been a lot of ‘stuff’ to deal with this last week or so – hopefully things are clearer now. Good to hear from you and I’ll certainly let you know if I need an accountability boost :-)
      Alayna

  6. Hi Alayna,
    It’s not easy to pick ourselves up and move forwards, and it does help when we can see people like yourself posting that you are doing it.
    I like your idea of the brain dump. An hour of writing down all the thoughts can be *hugely* productive, and helps to clarify the next step to be taken. That’s what it’s all about, working out the next step to be taken.
    Onwards and upwards!
    cheers,
    Gordon
    The Great Gordino recently posted…D-Day, 70 Years AgoMy Profile

    1. Hi Gordon,
      I find writing out your thoughts helps clear your head of all the clutter and self-talk (which isn’t always productive).Then you can focus on the things that are useful and as you say work out the next step to take.
      All the best
      Alayna

  7. Hey Alayna, just wanted to say well done for sharing your journey in this way. Takes a lot of guts, and not a little amount of wisdom also. Wishing you well on this journey and in your encouragement and assistance of others. Your tips on how to step away to solve problems are very good; my top one would be to use a pen sometimes rather than keyboard! Cheers, Paul

    1. Hi Paul
      Thank you for visiting and your comment. I agree that pen and paper can be used anywhere, where it’s not always convenient to have a keyboard handy. I end up writing bits of blogs and ideas, on the train, on the bus, waiting for appointments or in the coffee shop. It saves the frustration of feeling like you’re wasting time.
      Alayna

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